A quick note to my friends here …
Today, I had my first interview for my book which probably won’t release until NEXT January. God is so good to have created this great opportunity to get the word out early. Funny how you can write an entire book about a subject and then be surprised by some questions and comments. I have much to learn about this publishing and promoting gig. Good thing I’m a scholar at heart.
Check it out if you have time … Vicki’s Interview for Mosaic Heart: Spiritual Healing in the Midst of a Husband’s Addiction to Pornography
Hi Vicki, I really appreciated reading your interview on Challies this morning. I think your book will help many. Just wanted to ask if you have read Chris Brauns, Unpacking Forgiveness? As a wife experiencing what you’ve described, his book helped me to think through some of the horrible advice given to me by other christians (what I’m talking about is illustrated by an “anonymous” in the comments after your interview.) Please consider reading Unpacking before you publish your book. Perhaps you’ve already thought through the difference between “therapeutic” forgiveness and biblical forgiveness. I look forward to reading your book =)
Thank you so much for your note of encouragement. I think you will love the book! Thank you also for your comments about Brauns’ book. Yes, I have read it. YES … this is the position I take on forgiveness. It’s funny, I wrote my 5 chapters on forgiveness before I ever saw Brauns’ book. I was amazed at how close we were. We even quoted some of the same people. It’s hard when you’re writing comments or answering questions on a blog to fully state your position. It took me the entire book to tell everything and that can’t be done in a short blog. 🙂 I’ve tried to respond (again) to the anonymous person to whom I think you are referring and give her a better picture of what I believe biblical forgiveness looks like. It’s not for me to convince her. Do know that if you loved Chris Brauns’ position and it was helpful, then you’ll be delighted to find the same postion in my book. (It’s somewhat contrary to what you might hear in some evangelical circles, but I believe it’s biblically sound.) If you sign up for my RSS feeds or my newsletter, I’ll let you know when it releases. I hope to have a publication schedule soon. With holy enthusiasm, Vicki
Sure appreciated your interview, your responses to the many, many comments on challies.com and that you are tackling the writing of this book. I’m looking forward to reading it and will pray for you as you continually seek wisdom from above as you write.
Thank you, Tammy. Are you the Tammy who commented on the interview recently? If so, THANK YOU!! It meant a lot to see your words there. If you’d like, sign up for my RSS feed and/newsletter so that you can know when the book will be released. I do covet your prayers. The book is all written. It’s a shame the rest of the publishing process takes so long, but God knows when it should be released and hopefully we’ll know a date sooner than later. Do keep in touch. Blessings to you and yours, Tammy. With Holy Enthusiasm,
Hi there! I was just searching afresh for the information on a release date for this book. Is it still looking like Jan. 2012? I’m really looking forward to reading it as I seek to minister to women! Thanks for your work on it!
Hi Elizabeth. Thank you for your note. I hate to even have to tell you this, but the release date for my book is … gulp … October of 2012. Yea, not what we had hoped. I CAN tell you that the title is finalized. It will called When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography ~ Healing for Your Wounded Heart. I have your email information now and as soon as it comes out, I’ll send you a note. Would that be okay? I appreciate your prayers and thoughts as we take care of final edits on the book. Keep in touch. With Holy Enthusiasm, Vicki
Hello,Im really eager to read your book and I wish it was being released sooner. I’m really excited because I know God is going to heal my heart and my trust for my husband. Im so glad there is a book now to help guide women in the healing process and for women to learn how to rely on God for her needs and not her husband. Thank you for making such a book. I know it will minister to many hurting wives.
Alyssa, I’m adding you to my “pray for” list. My prayer is that even now God is healing your heart and that your husband is seeking help. I’ll send you a note as when the book is released. Many blessings to you~ Vicki
I am so very thankful for your interview. Through it I found strength and direction. I thank God for His work through you. I am looking forward to the book. Not looking forward to the wait!!! God Bless you.
I just found out I was pregnant with my second child, and on the same day I discovered porn on my husbands iphone. I googled “help for wives whose husbands are viewing pornography” and your blog was the first to come up. Thank you for your words, I feel I am a long way off in the healing process, since my discovery of this is so recent, but you’ve given me hope that healing is possible. I would be more than appreciative of any other insights you might have or any other interviews/blogs/etc… may God bless you for what you are doing!
First, I want to congratulate you on your GOOD news! I believe, with all my heart, that God has a plan for you. He has written your story in His book and even though the news of your sweet baby came on the same day that your unfortunate discovery happened, God’s plan for your story hasn’t changed. He is always up to something good. Always. I’m believing that for you and your growing family as well. I’m adding you to my prayer list and will look forward to hearing how your heart healing journey progresses. My prayer is that the timing of all of this will drive your husband to seek healing himself. Remember, that you being OKAY and worthy has nothing to do with the daily choices your husband makes. Lean heavily into your hope in the Lord, J. If you send me a private email at firstname.lastname@example.org with your mailing address, I will send you a postcard when my book releases. The finalized title is : “When Your HUSband is Addicted to Pornography ~ Healing for Your Wounded Heart.” God bless you! Vicki