Radio and Podcast Appearances
Tim Clinton ~ Life, Love and Family
Dr. Tim speaks with Vicki Tiede about healing your wounded heart, when your husband is addicted to pornography on Life, Love and Family.
Excerpt from Downloadable Fact Sheet:
5 Steps to Heal Your Wounded Heart:
Pray—seek daily time before God in prayer, reading the Scriptures, and asking God for the ability to overcome the betrayal you feel. You must surrender control to Him in order to begin moving forward with your life.
Seek Help—whether or not you choose to continue in this marriage, seeking counseling may be the first step in moving forward. Find a professional who you can talk with, getting the issues out in the open, and dealing with the pain you feel.
Deal with Your Feelings—do not overlook or dismiss the anger, resentment, guilt, or fears you are now struggling with. You must take an honest look at the effect your husband’s pornography use has had on you.
Forgive—commit to the process of forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act and a multilayered journey. Do not rush forgiveness. You will often need to make daily decisions to release this hurt.
Rebuild Trust—if you choose to remain in your marriage, learn and discuss ways that you may rebuild trust with your husband. Identify the actions that caused you to question him in the past and encourage him to do the opposite of those. If you leave the relationship, you must take steps to learn how to trust others in spite of the pain this relationship has caused you.
Dustin Daniels Radio Show
Does Your Spouse Have a Recovery Plan?
Pornography might be your problem, but intimacy is about both of you under the covenant of marriage from Almighty God. Does your spouse have a recovery plan? This Dustin Daniels Radio Show a “must-listen” for your marriage, and this book is a “must-read” as well! Aired on February 17, 2013.
Ladies, Do You Feel Like You are the Only One?
If 50%-60% of Christian men are addicted to pornography, that means there are an additional 50%-60% of wives, children, family and friends that are impacted as well. Vicki Tiede speaks on her new book and walks us through part of the grieving process of betrayal on the Dustin Daniels Radio Show. Aired February 10, 2013
Shaun Tabatt ~ Bible Geek Gone Wild
Aurthor Talk with Vicki Tiede ~ Parenting on Your Knees
In this episode of the Author Talks Podcast Shaun Tabatt interview Vicki Tiede about her new book Parenting on Your Knees: Prayers and Practical Guidance for the Preschool Years (Pix-N-Pens Publishing, 2013). Aired February 2, 2013
Tricia Goyer ~ Living Inspired
Pornography Addiction & Recovery
This week on Living Inspired Tricia Goyer welcome Vicki Tiede. Author Vicki Tiede, MEd, MMin, is a Bible teacher, speaker, author and a contributing author for five books. Vicki is also a wife, homeschooling mom, and women’s ministries coordinator at her local church in Rochester, Minnesota. Her new book, When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart (New Growth Press, 2012) is the long-awaited response to the cries of women who need to heal their heart from the devastation of a husband’s sexual addiction. Aired February 14, 2013
The Mary Beth Wells Hour ~ Adoption Journey to Motherhood
Pornography Addiction & Recovery
Pornography ~ it’s a 57 Billion dollar business and it destroys lives. What are the signs to watch for? How can you help a loved one who is addicted? How can you get help if you are addicted? Find out on today’s show when May Beth Wells guest Vicki Tiede discusses her book, ‘When your Husband is Addicted to Pornography ~ Healing your Wounded Heart’. www.vickitiede.com Aired December 3, 2012
Susie Larson ~ Live the Promise
Overcoming Sexual Sin
It’s one of the most devastating occurrences in marriage – a woman finds out her husband has been struggling with pornography. How can a couple get the help and support they need to heal and rebuild trust? Today Susie Larson talks in-studio with Vicki Tiede. Vicki is an author, Bible teacher, and speaker, and she’ll talk about her new book, When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography. Aired November 30, 2012 on Faith Radio
Rita A. Schulte ~ Heartline Podcast
NEW BOOK PROVIDES HEALING FOR A WOMAN WHOSE HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY Greensboro, NC—When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart (New Growth Press, October 27, 2012) by author Vicki Tiede is the long‐awaited response to the cries of women who need to heal their heart from the devastation of a husband’s sexual addiction. Today Rita Schulte is interviewing the author in a two part interview.
“It’s been estimated that in the U.S. more than 60 million men, women, and adolescents may now be struggling with excessive porn use, which is a powerful indication of how easy it is to get so immersed in porn that your whole life is thrown off balance,” says Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. and clinical psychologist. (“Internet Porn: Its Problems, Perils, and Pitfalls,” PsychologyToday.com, June 28, 2012)
Tiede interacted with 25 women in a focus group as she wrote her book. The women completed an interview and questionnaire, and Tiede shares their stories in the book. Each chapter includes opportunities for the reader to personalize what they are learning by responding to questions individually or in a group. Tiede outlines levels of addiction in her book, citing that her book addresses Level I on the spectrum of addiction: lust, fantasy, masturbation, and pornography (magazines, Internet, video, cable/satellite TV).
Thomas Plante, Ph.D., A.B.P.P., Professor of Psychology and Director of the Spirituality and Health Institute at Santa Clara University said of the increase in pornography, “With the ease of Internet pornography it is no wonder so many people struggle. Since I work mostly with Catholics and Episcopals often folks talk about this problem with their clergy who refer them to me for help. Typically they feel ashamed of their behavior yet also feel that they can’t stop it.” (“Coping with the Pornography Addiction Explosion,” PsychologyToday.com, July 10, 2012)
Tiede makes it clear in her book that regardless of a husband’s decisions, a woman can gain the healing she needs by first acknowledging her pain and loss and then surrendering unproductive feelings to God in her healing process.
“Vicki entered our marriage with wounds of betrayal from her first marriage. I learned that a woman who has been betrayed by her husband will have lasting wounds that don’t go away quickly. Openness about her wounds is essential to build a trusting and loving relationship,” says Mike Tiede, MA, LP, husband of Vicki Tiede and Master’s Level Psychologist, Mayo Clinic.
Tiede’s book addresses six themes: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness divided into five days of reading over six weeks. She makes it clear that this is not a handbook for fixing your husband but the focus is to “deal with our own issues and feelings regarding a husband’s lust, masturbation, and pornography.”
Among endorsements from Josh McDowell and others, a licensed marriage and family therapist responds to the book: “My advice to women is first to recognize their husband’s behavior has nothing to do with lack on their part. As the wife internalizes that her worth comes from God and is not dependent on another, she can often replace feelings of rejection, anger and shame with hope,” says Margaret Moore, MA, LMFT, LADC, RN.
Part 1: Aired November 21, 2012
Part 2: Aired November 28, 2012
When Your Husband is Unfaithful Join Marnie and special guest, Vicki Tiede, for marriage training: When Your Husband Is Addicted to Internet Images. Aired November 15, 2012
Janet Parshall ~ In the Marketplace
Many Christian women are married to men who are struggling with pornography. Vicki Tiede knows the pain, betrayal, and isolation they feel. From her new book, When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart, Vicki reminds us that true healing and restoration are possible. Listen in on Janet’s Interview on In the Marketplace through this link to Moody Radio. Aired October 31, 2012.